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“Visited her with a friend's friend. Didn't personally interact with her.”

“I went to her even when I was not married and took my boyfriend along. He had several questions to ask, and I was relieved that she non judgmentally answered the questions. She asked if I was sexually active and not if I was married. However, after I got married, she did insist a bunch of times about my age and how I should focus on having children, since it could get difficult later. Also, though the doctor herself is non judgmental, I would not say so about the technicians in the hospital. The woman in the ultrasound room was quite surprised at being asked to vaginally give me an ultrasound though I was not married. Additionally, I was not happy with the requirement at the hospital to fill in husband's or father's name. It seemed unnecessary.”

“Dr. Alexander was very respectful and non-judgemental when a friend and I went to her to ask about IUDs and subsequently had them inserted. She was not fazed by our 'unmarried' status and asked relevant questions about our sexual activity, accepting the answers without censure. She was a comforting, positive and simultaneously no-nonsense presence both during the procedure and during a subsequent check-up. She explained the procedure and the benefits of the hormonal IUD, without pushing us to take it - as we had previously decided on the copper IUD based on internet research. She was respectful of our choice, and her assurance made us rethink our decision and trust her judgement. The other doctors in the clinic are slightly judgemental and one nurse proceeded to give us a lot of advice about 'settling-down' after taking a look at our files and seeing that we were 'unmarried' and had come in for a procedure that clearly indicated we were sexually active. However she was not overtly offensive, and given her life experience we could see where the lecture came from. She was also unintentionally racist to my friend - though again, in a well-intentioned way. Do call before you go in and ask specifically if Dr. Alexander will be available and if you can see her, for an unambiguously positive experience. Otherwise you are likely to encounter the other doctors - who try but don't quite manage to mask their discomfort with women's sexual autonomy - and well-intentioned moralistic nurses like the one we met.”

“She is a good surgeon, too. She is a great choice for single women who want to ask questions and be treated with respect. She gives you information and is kind when you're scared. I never felt judged, always prescribed me pills after listening to my requirements of side effects.”

“She is a superb doctor and a very nice person. Took out time to address my health issues when I suffered from herpes simplex in the mouth during pregnancy. Called her colleagues and got me first class treatment and consultation when no other doctors would touch my case as I was pregnant and they did not want to medicate a pregnant person.”

“Exceptionally empathetic and compassionate person. One of a kind I have ever met! Hats off to her!”

“This is the first time in India I've found a gynae who started with 'It's unfortunate how judgemental some doctors can be which prevents their patients from getting the best care'. She put me at ease completely and discussed about my sexual and gynecological history frankly, clearly and scientifically. She also wrote out my sexual history in shorthand so that 'if any other doctor sees this they wont know what I've written-this is private between you and me-no one else gets to judge'. Google about her, she has some well known research papers on fertility etc.”

“Was friendly and easy to interact with. The ultrasound costs way too much (1500 rupees) - the only complaint i have”